And one of them, a lawyer, asked him a question to test him. “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” And he said to him, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets." – Matthew 22:35-40
If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you. -- John 15:7
And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him. – 1 John 5:14-15
Saint Augustine said, “Love God, and then do what you please.”
This has long struck me as a sort of Catch-22 since love, as best I can define it, seeks to please the object of love.
For example, I am simply happy to be in the presence of my grandchildren, to see them filled with joy even when it costs me aches and pains, time and money.
In a perfectly balanced love relationship, each party would try to ensure that the other was happier in order to derive his or her own happiness, which brings to mind, immediately,
O. Henry’s famous story.
If we are not careful, we may find ourselves thinking that, if God wants us to be happy, we might please Him by pleasing ourselves. This would be akin to a married person thinking that if the spouse’s foremost desire is the happiness of the beloved then, if the beloved desires to engage another person, the spouse would be happy. In truth, I know that my wife would be very unhappy if I cheated on her, especially at the funeral. What actions like adultery say is that the one does not find full pleasure in the pleasure of the other.
Over and over in the Bible, God assures us that we will find our joy in Him and Him alone. Everything else, every pleasure, every success, every achievement in life can derive its meaning and fulfillment only from Him and our love for Him. When Jesus said that we cannot serve both God and mammon, He did not say that we would not have to work for a living, that we could get by without money, or that we should all go off and live as hermits. There are some who are called to a life of solitary prayer, but the vast majority of us are called to live for and to love God in the midst of a contrary and often hostile system. I have gotten through many difficult days by offering the pressures and stresses to the Lord, saying I do not work for the supervisor, the manager, the CEO, or the company but for Jesus. And, of course, some days I have forgotten and suffered needlessly for it.
Somehow I must know that what I go through in life and, more importantly, how I go through the trials of life will bring honor and glory to the God that I love. No man or woman will sacrifice their lives, labor long hours, and endure deprivation and hardship for nothing, but all will do just that and more for someone or even something that they love. Every day men and women lay down their lives for a country they love or a cause to which they are devoted. Parents sacrifice present pleasures and future dreams that their children might have better opportunities in life.
Ultimately, an old saying gets close to the truth, “Love is not a feeling; it’s an act of the will.” If I find, as I sometimes do, that the joy has gone from my life, that I am struggling and suffering in what seems to be a pointless existence then perhaps I need to stop where I am and renew my love to God, to find what it is in my life that pleases Him, and to pursue it even sacrificially. For when God rejoices in me, I will rejoice.
But we all with open face beholding as in a glass the glory of the Lord, are changed into that same image from glory to glory, even as by the Spirit of the Lord.